My Reading List (updated 1/13/20)

While being technically “unemployed”, running a software company, consulting, and mentoring startups, I still dedicate a lot time for personal growth. In addition to eating right, exercising, meditating, yoga, and taking time for myself, I’ve been reading (& listening to) a lot of books. I like sharing gems (good books) with others so they others can expand their “bubbles”, so I figured I’d make a page instead of the normal outlet – twitter. If you have recommendations for me, leave a comment or contact me through here. Thanks. (Books are listed in reverse chronological order, and I’ll be adding more as I find time.)

The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist

This book really opened my eyes to how some people (narcissists) treat others and the reasons behind it. It also helped remove the guilt of thinking that “it” was all my fault, when in reality it had nothing to do with me. From Good Reads: “A covert narcissist has the same traits as the well-known overt type. The difference is when they control and manipulate, when they demean and devalue you it is done is such a subtle way you don’t notice it. Living with a covert narcissist drains your spirit and leaves you questioning your own reality. You have been lied to for years and it is time to finally see the truth of what you have been through, who you really are, and how much you deserve love and happiness.”

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

This is a super-helpful book on how to prioritize and not feel guilty about saying “no”, or passing on opportunities that take up your time. It also helped realize that everyone else is going through the same sh*t, and instead of feeling bad, or forcing yourself to feel good, living through it because it’s part of life! From Good Reads: There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.”

Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment

This is a great book about improving and maintaining a good relationship with your spouse. Highly recommended for anyone, even if you aren’t in a relationship it will help you when you do get into one. Google Books says “Here is a powerful new program that can clear away the unconscious agreements patterns that undermine even your best intentions. Through their own marriage and through twenty years’ experience counseling more than one thousand couples, therapists Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have developed precise strategies to help you create a vital partnership and enhance the energy, creativity, and happiness of each individual.

I’m Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagan

I enjoyed this story about a woman and her family, and friend and the perception of others “perfect lives”. Cosmo UK says “Hotly anticipated novel I’m Fine And Neither Are You follows Penelope Ruiz-Kar’s attempt at saving her marriage with total and brutal honesty. When a tragedy in her friend’s life forces her to confront her own issues, Penelope and her husband vow to write down a list of all the things they’d change about each other. But what felt like a positive change quickly spirals out of control, revealing new rifts and even deeper secrets.”

The Goal by Eliyahu Goldratt

This is an older but good book about always improving the processes in business, which translates quite nicely to life. James Clear says the book is about “doing work and making money are not the same thing. Simplify your problem to the point where you understand the true goal of your organization. With your goal in mind, identify the constraints within your system (i.e. bottlenecks) and focus on improving the output of that constraint without worrying about the productivity of all related processes.

Lost Connections by Johann Hari

This is an incredible book on the causes and solutions of depression and anxiety. The solutions part is key because normally you only hear about what causes it. This book will really educate you on how wrong the current solutions are and how to avoid falling into that pattern. Liberty Journal says: “This well-written and well-documented book offers a powerful argument against the pharmacological treatment of depression and raises some provocative arguments. Highly recommended.”

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

I really enjoyed this book about how to live your life even when everything seems to be falling apart. Finding ways to cope with life’s challenges through spirituality/Philosophy (not religion), communication and action. “Pema Chödrön in her most beloved and acclaimed work, shows that moving toward painful situations and becoming intimate with them can open up our hearts in ways we never before imagined. Drawing from traditional Buddhist wisdom, she offers life-changing tools for transforming suffering and negative patterns into habitual ease and boundless joy.” – Shambhala

Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari

Now, this is an interesting book about the history of humankind from the evolution of the human species from the Stone Age up to the twenty-first century. Goodreads: “In Sapiens, Dr Yuval Noah Harari spans the whole of human history, from the very first humans to walk the earth to the radical – and sometimes devastating – breakthroughs of the Cognitive, Agricultural and Scientific Revolutions.”

Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up

I really enjoyed this book by Jerry Colonna, one of the start-up world’s most in-demand executive coaches. “Jerry, a venture capitalist turned executive coach shares his unusual yet highly effective blend of Buddhism, Jungian therapy, and entrepreneurial straight talk to help leaders overcome their own psychological traumas. Reboot is a journey of radical self-inquiry, helping you to reset your life by sorting through the emotional baggage that is holding you back professionally, and even more important, in your relationships.” – Google Books

More to come! Keep checking back for more great books as I read them or find time to write about the ones I have.

Completed:

  1. It Takes One to Tango
  2. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
  3. Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life
  4. Shoe Dog: A Memoir by the Creator of Nike
  5. Trillion Dollar Coach: The Leadership Playbook of Silicon Valley’s Bill Campbell
  6. Bad Blood: Secrets and Lies in a Silicon Valley Startup
  7. The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness
  8. Be Fearless: Five Principles for a Life of Breakthroughs and Purpose
  9. Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes
  10. Trust Me, I’m Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator
  11. Smarter Faster Better: The Secrets of Being Productive in Life and Business
  12. Disrupt Yourself: Putting the Power of Disruptive Innovation to Work
  13. The Kingdom of Happiness: Inside Tony Hsieh’s Zapponian Utopia
  14. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance
  15. Elon Musk: Tesla, SpaceX, and the Quest for a Fantastic Future
  16. Startup Communities: Building an Entrepreneurial Ecosystem in Your City
  17. Venture Deals: Be Smarter Than Your Lawyer and Venture Capitalist
  18. Eleven Rings: The Soul of Success
  19. The Lean Startup: How Today’s Entrepreneurs Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses
  20. Great by Choice
  21. Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…And Others Don’t
  22. How to Win Friends & Influence People

On my reading list (yet to read):

  1. The Home Front: Life in America During World War II
  2. 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos
  3. Adam Grant’s Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success Summary
  4. The Beautiful Brain: An Audible Original
  5. Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams
  6. American Kingpin: The Epic Hunt for the Criminal Mastermind Behind the Silk Road
  7. How to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence
  8. You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth
  9. Fear: Trump in the White House
  10. The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable
  11. The Rational Optimist: How Prosperity Evolves
  12. The Power of Now
  13. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win
  14. The Signal and the Noise: Why So Many Predictions Fail – but Some Don’t
  15. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
  16. Life 3.0: Being Human in the Age of Artificial Intelligence
  17. The China Study, Revised and Expanded Edition: The Most Comprehensive Study of Nutrition Ever Conducted and the Startling Implications for Diet, Weight Loss, and Long-Term Health
  18. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness
  19. The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future
  20. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business
  21. Thinking, Fast and Slow
  22. Seveneves: A Novel
  23. The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers
  24. Pitch Anything: An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal
  25. Zero to One: Notes on Startups, or How to Build the Future
  26. Crossing the Chasm: Marketing and Selling Technology Projects to Mainstream Customers
  27. Startup Boards: Getting the Most Out of Your Board of Directors
  28. The Art of War
  29. The Long Tail: Why the Future of Business Is Selling Less of More
  30. Steve Jobs
  31. What Every BODY Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People
  32. If You’re Not First, You’re Last: Sales Strategies to Dominate Your Market and Beat Your Competition
  33. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
  34. TouchPoints: Creating Powerful Leadership Connections in the Smallest of Moments